Introversion, Shyness, and the Pastor’s WifePosted: December 14, 2013 | |
A Facebook friend had posted this on her wall today. I was uncertain how this article about helping the pastor’s wife would come across, but his list actually proved to be insightful and clear. To be honest, I don’t know who the author of this blog is and what denomination he belongs to (or even if his other writings are complete rubbish), but he mentioned many of the stressors that pastor’s wives can face. #3 rang especially true for me:
No two pastor’s wives are the same. Some love having others in their homes. Some sing or play an instrument. Some love shepherding the women around them. Some are extremely outgoing. Interestingly, those tend to be the expectations that are placed on all pastor’s wives. The problem is that some pastor’s wives are very shy. Some don’t like large groups. Some find it difficult to build relationships. Pastor’s wives, just like every other group of people, are different. Have realistic expectations. Some people expect their pastor’s wife to be someone God never intended her to be. This is simply unfair. Have realistic expectations of your pastor’s wife.
I’ve heard over and over again that I don’t have to do anything I wouldn’t want to do as a layperson, but this is one of the few times someone has mentioned personality in relation to the role of pastor’s wife. It gave me a little hope during what is proving to be a fretful month. And hurrah, I’m not the only one who is shy, doesn’t like large groups, and find it difficult to build relationships!
Do you have a pastor’s wife who doesn’t fit the “traditonal” role? What do you like about her (I’m trying to be positive here)? Are you a pastor’s wife with a personality that doesn’t meet the “traditonal” expectations? How do you help congregation members understand this?