Our 4 Stages of Moving

It’s moving week for my husband and me.  That means we are now in the throes of the 4 Stages of Moving.

Stage 1: Denial

This stage usual begins about 3-4 weeks before our move.  It’s generally when we haven’t actually starting packing but we’re seriously thinking about starting packing.  We try to convince ourselves that this move will be better then the last move and that we actually don’t have as much to pack as we think we do.

stage 1

Whether or not this is true, this keeps the panic at bay so we at least start filling boxes.

Stage 2: Panic

This stage usually begins somewhere around 1-2 weeks before our move.  As boxes begin to pile up around us and more and more things get added to our moving list, nerves and panic start to set in.

Stage 2

Things to panic about include having enough space in the moving truck, having enough boxes or packing material, and having enough help to load up the moving truck.  There is also the option to panic about the fact that we’re moving to a new town where we don’t know anyone.

Stage 3: Celebration

This stage occurs after we get everything into the truck/trailer.  We can breath a sigh of relief because everything is packed and we can check off one of the biggest things on our moving list.  This stage lasts about 10 minutes before reverting back to Stage 2 because, well, we still have to finish cleaning the house, make a long drive, unload the truck, meet new people. . .

Stage 3


Stage 4: Acceptance

No matter what we do, how much we plan, and what we tell ourselves, moving is an exhausting ordeal.  At the end of the move, we just have to accept the physical and emotional exhaustion that always follows.

Stage 4

*Note: We are loading up the trailer tomorrow and moving to Iowa on Friday.  The bad news is that we’ll be sans internet for a bit.  I know, I know, you’ll cry yourself to sleep knowing that there will not be new post coming the next few days (not that I’ve been posting consistently anyway).  The good news is that I have some ideas percolating for blog posts and even a new blog title!  After all, I can’t be the Seminarian’s Wife when my husband isn’t a seminarian.  🙂  


How to Confuse Your Server

Earlier this week, my husband and I decided to go to Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner.  My husband had been recently commenting that he wanted wings, it was a dreary day, and a weeknight.  It seemed like the perfect time to go to a sports bar.

We arrived at the bar and were quickly seated.  I then started scanning the menu for weekday specials.

decidingOur server came to our table to take our orders.

orderingFor some reason, she paused to look at us.

confusedJust as the pause starting getting awkward, she finally said:

wednesdayApparently we had both forgotten what day it was and decided it was Tuesday.  One of us should probably go back to work soon so we can keep track of the days.

Our Cats Have a Love/Hate Relationship with Moving

I’ve mentioned before that a new aspect for this move is the fact that we have cats.  Truth be told, I’m a little worried and nervous about taking our 2 cats that were born on the porch of this house to a new home.  I have a tendency to humanize animals, so I fear that we’ll permanently traumatize the cats by taking them from their birthplace.  I have issues, I know.

At any rate, our cats have no idea what’s coming.  All they know right now is that the giant creatures they board with are steadily dismantling the house.  Their reaction to our packing varies from enjoyment to fear.

On one hand, they are currently in a kitty playground.  They have lots of empty boxes to hide in.  There are piles of packing paper (and bubble wrap when they can get their paws on it) to jump onto and scatter.  There are empty shelves to explore.  They love it!


On the other hand, they are living in a kitty nightmare.  Things are rapidly changing.  The giant creatures are acting strange.  There are lots of unfamiliar crashes coming from odd places.  Oh, and there is the constant riiiiiiiiiiiiip of packing tape (because everyone *loves* that sound. . .or not).  They hate it!


Consequently, the cats don’t know what to make of their surroundings.  Should they like moving or not?  I think stuffing them in a kennel for an 8-hour car trip might sway them towards the latter.

Post-Seminary Aspirations: Update

About a year and a half ago, I wrote our wish-list of things we would like to have/do after my husband was done with seminary.  Since my husband is now done with seminary and we are waiting to load up the trailer to start our new life soon, I started thinking about this list.  Much to my surprise, we’ve already crossed some of our post-seminary aspirations off our list.

Buy headboard
Own piano
Buy shredded cheese:  For some reason I consider this a frivolous purchase when I can buy a block of cheese for less and shred it myself.  However, it is so tedious to shred 16 ounces of cheese!
Consistent beer supply
Ditch the pink armchair that we got from the Co-op:  Super comfy, super ugly
Have babies!  Baby #1 due October 1
Have a real kitchen table:  Not that our current one isn’t great, it just isn’t ours It turns out that we are keeping the kitchen table after all.  🙂
Buy a house
Have a cat AND dog We adopted two kittens this past November.  We’re going to wait a bit for the dog.  
Get a DVR
Decorate rooms more purposely:  Since we move so often, it’s hard to justify actually buying home decor because we don’t know if we can use it at the next place.  I pointed this out to my husband when he wanted to get another crucifix for our house
Live in the same home for more than a year consecutively
New clothes that fit:  Not that the Co-op and thrift stores aren’t great (nor will we stop using thrift stores once we’re done with seminary), it’s just sometimes we’re wearing clothes that don’t exactly fit because they were free
Flat screen TV Christmas gift in 2012
More variety in coffee supply
Two full bathrooms:  This is my husband’s idea, I think it’s frivolous Our parsonage has 1 and 3/4 baths.  Good enough for me!
Furnished guest bedroom
Guest house:  Again, husband’s idea.  I think he was getting silly at this point
Fire pit
Not looking at everything we own and thinking, “How hard is this to move?”
Patio furniture
Matching furniture for living room:  Or at least stop doing things like using my old, broken TV stand as a side table.  On the other hand, I love that I can tell a story about every piece of furniture in our living room.  The couch was my grandmother’s, the coffee table was my father-in-law’s, one of the end tables was my parents’ and is from the Philippines. . .
Own a kneeler  Husband will get one in a few weeks as a graduation present.
Buy a guitar
Contacts for husband:  Might spring for this before being done with seminary
Spice rack
Retirement fund
Start investments
Huge kitchen with island
Have multiple flavors of ice cream in freezer
Big computer desk
Sun Room
China hutch
New vacuum:  We’re using the cheap-o one my parents bought me for my first apartment
Magazine subscriptions There are ways to get subscriptions for free.  🙂
Dishwasher Parsonage will have one!
Garbage disposal Parsonage will have one!
Be able to pay for others’ meals when we go out
After feeling like our lives have been at the same place for the last four years (moving constantly, trying to get husband through school), it’s nice to realize that we have been working towards a more comfortable life.

Sneaky Moving Expenses

It’s no secret that moving is expensive.  Renting a truck (or hiring movers), paying for gas,  and setting up services at a new place are just a few of the costs that quickly add up.  This is our 5th move in 5 summers, so I like to think I have some idea beforehand about how much we’ll spend on a move (Thankfully, our last two moves and this current move is paid for by a congregation.  That means we don’t have to worry about paying for a truck and we get help with the gas money).

Despite my experience with both in-town and out-of-state moves, there are always costs that take me by surprise.  Sometimes they take me by surprise every year.

1.  Packing material

We’ve managed to save quite a bit of money over the last few moves because we hoard all of our boxes and any newspapers that we receive.  We still run out of certain materials–typically in the packing tape and bubble wrap departments.  Some things just need to be bubble wrapped and you don’t want to buy cheap packing tape only to have it not keep your boxes closed.  Packing tape costs even more if you aren’t able to keep your boxes intact between moves.

Boxes, Boxes, Everywhere

These boxes didn’t put themselves together last move.

2.  Food

I know that it costs money to eat on the road–that isn’t what I’m referring to.  In the last few weeks before a move, we start working on eating the things stored in the pantry and fridge.  The closer to moving day we get, the weirder food combinations we start having.  Finally, we just reach a breaking point.



3.  Cats

Admittedly, the cats are a new factor this year, but they are already proving to be an additional expense.  When we adopted our kittens, they were 1 pound balls of fuzz.  We bought a small carrier and they both fit inside it without any problem.  Then they grew, but we happened upon another small carrier at the Co-op.  They each fit in their individual carriers comfortably.  Then they grew.  Their small carriers are okay for a trip to the vet, but probably not so great for an 8+ hour car ride.  Consequently, we need a bigger carrier or cage for them and those things aren’t cheap.


Granted, we could always stick them in a cardboard box with some holes in it, but I don’t want them to completely hate us after the move.

These are the things that are already proving to be sneaky moving expenses for this move.  What sneaky moving expenses have you had?